Porn is easy to find but hard to walk away from. For many men it becomes more than a habit, it starts to affect confidence, relationships, and mental health.

Many of the men I work with in therapy share a common thread — they grew up without the steady presence of a father. This piece looks at how that absence shapes us, and how we can start to change the story.

Most men don’t grow up being told it’s OK to talk.
We’re taught to get on with it, keep it in, and just crack on.

But over time, that silence takes its toll. That’s why I support Mentality Men’s Club, a weekly space where men can drop the mask, speak honestly, and realise they’re not alone.

This isn’t therapy. It’s something just as powerful: real connection.

Struggling with obsessive thoughts about your partner’s past? Retroactive jealousy can wreck your peace of mind and relationships — even before they start. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, now’s the time to deal with it. In this post, we break down what retroactive jealousy really is, why it’s not about “body count,” and how to stop letting it control your thoughts.

Partner-pleasing is the quiet habit that keeps good men stuck—tiptoeing around conflict, over-performing, and slowly disappearing in their own relationships. If you’re always trying to keep the peace at your own expense, this one’s for you.

Why do so many men choose female therapists?
It’s not about weakness — it’s about feeling safe enough to finally speak. The reasons go deeper than you might think.

What it means when your partner asks for space — and what to do (and not do) if you want to handle it with strength, respect, and clarity.

Why men avoid couples therapy—and why it doesn’t have to be that way. Straight-talking advice for real change without blame or fluff.

You trust your partner. You know they’re not doing anything wrong. But you can’t stop thinking about their past — who they were with, what they did, and how it makes you feel now. Maybe it’s driving you mad. You hate feeling like this, but the thoughts won’t let go.

That’s retroactive jealousy.

You wouldn’t run your car without fuel, skip every service, and expect it to keep performing. Yet many men treat their own bodies and minds that way — until something breaks.